Around this time last year I read a young girl’s Facebook status. She went on a rant about how angry she was at her parents and how they were basically ruining her life. It actually broke my heart. I was about a month away from my due date at that time and I cried reading that post. I remembered being a young immature girl and thinking similar thoughts I had, then I thought about my Laila into her teenage years.
Being a teenage girl is definitely hard. I can only imagine how hard it is on parents. Mom & Dad if you are reading this, I am so sorry you had to live with me as a teenager 🙂 As a teenager you are always right and parents don’t know absolutely anything……
As a girl mom, I know the teenage years will come way too soon. Hubby and I talk about this all of the time and it really gets me emotional. Not so much for her growing up, but more of the teenage battles, the peer pressure, the independence, the newness of us never having a teenager until she, in fact, becomes a teenager. I have to admit, those years terrify me. To all parents that have survived your kids teenage years, you really are the superheros. As many sleepless nights we have now….I can only imagine how many we will have then! I’m sure in a few years, I will have more to add to this letter as I already have a million things I would tell teenage Laila. But for now… A letter to my future teenage daughter.
My sweet TINY Laila,
In a blink of an eye you will be a teenager. You are about 1 right now. We are in the middle of planning your Halloween Birthday party. It’s funny because one day you won’t be as obsessed with pumpkins and bubbles like you are now 🙂 I write you this as I remember back to being a teenager myself. There are a few things that I want you to always remember and know.
First of all, we love you more than anything. I write this with a tiny girl in my arms. It’s hard to even envision you as a teenager. When you think that we are trying to ruin your life, we aren’t. I always thought my parents were trying to ruin my life with the rules and curfews. It’s hard to understand anything past the “right now” when you are a teenager. It’s hard to understand how much your parents worry and care for you when you are a teenager. Never for one second doubt that you are SO loved.
Always, always, always be kind. Be kind to others. This world is ugly and hurtful. Be someone that shows kindness and empathy towards others. You truly never know what is going on in other people’s lives. As a teenager, it is easier to join in conversations that are ugly towards others. It’s easier to laugh or agree with others. Don’t do that, ever. Be someone that shows love towards others. Be someone that makes others feel special. When others begin hurtful conversations, be strong enough to stand up for others.
You are absolutely beautiful. Being a girl is hard. So much of society tells us what is beautiful. What size is beautiful. What number on a scale is beautiful. What clothing is beautiful. Beauty is not about looks. One of my favorite quotes is “if only our eyes saw souls instead of bodies, how different our ideas of beauty would be.” You, my girl, are beautiful!
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14
You will accomplish so many things. As your number one fans, we believe that you will do so many things in your life. We have prayed so much for you. Even before you were born. When we made your nursery, we went with the “Oh the places you’ll go” theme for this very reason! Always dream big and aim high. We can’t wait to see all that you are able to do in this life.
I love you so much baby girl and you will always have a best friend in me,